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(2005), PG-13 [PG-13*] (1hr 40min)

Analysis Date
CAP Final Score
CAP Influence Density
April 23, 2005
58 out of 100

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(2005), PG-13 [PG-13*] -- ... a teeney bopper, MPAA-approved sex/skin flick.

Cast/Crew Details Courtesy Internet Movie Database
Production (US): Mile High Productions LLC, Touchstone Pictures, Beacon Pictures
Distribution (US): Buena Vista Pictures, Summit Entertainment, The Walt Disney Company, Touchstone Pictures
Director(s): Nigel Cole
Producer(s): Armyan Bernstein, Lisa Bruce, Zanne Devine, Suzann Ellis, Jo Farrugia, Charlie Lyons, Brynn McQuade, Kevin J. Messick
Written by: Colin Patrick Lynch
Cinematography/Camera: John de Borman
Music: Alex Wurman
Film Editing: Susan Littenberg
Casting: Joseph Middleton
Production Design: Tom Meyer
Art Direction: Denise Hudson
Viewed At: Driftwood Theater 6

If you don't want to hear a father of 31 kids rambling against a skin/sex flick targeted at them then move on to something else. Yes, 31 kids, not all at once to be sure but 31 nonetheless. A father of two biological sons and 29 foster kids (seven adoptions out of the 29 foster kids, soon to be eight) who has intimately witnessed the changes caused by "entertainment." Repeatedly. And not just in "my kids." So, I am going to unload on such filth in film as A Lot Like Love.

If you don't want to hear it, move on to something else. Besides, what I have to say in this report will probably make a few of you mad and will probably cause a few to leave our "family" as well. So be it. "Enter" at your own risk. I love He who spent three days in Hell so you and I would not have to spend one moment there and I am steaming infuriated at what Hollywood and the MPAA are together doing to His little ones (which include at-home teens).

If you can stomach it, imagine your 12 or 13 year old daughter (or any age for that matter) looking up at a 20-foot totally nude Ashton Kutcher as he cups his genitals in his hands. Now imagine your daughter seeing Amanda Peet AND Kutcher from the side standing in face-to-face tight, intimate full-body nude contact. You have an accurate image of much of the content of this film.

Child Protective Services (CPS) has told me that if you or I were to show nude pictures to our kids, they would call it sexual abuse and would find out why we would want to do such a thing. A CPS supervisor told me that in each case of child sexual abuse there were nude pictures of some kind in the home. How the adult filmmakers of Hollywood get away with showing nudie pictures to our kids I have no idea. Hollywood calls it "art." God calls it sin. [**, Luke 17:2]

The PG-13 A Lot Like Love is perfect material for the usefulness of the CAP analysis model to caring parents and to pastors, church youth ministers and other leaders responsible to children. The level of detail the CAP model brings to you reveals the minute features of a film which secular reviews, the MPAA, advertisers, trailers, etc. can't or won't tell you so YOU can be in a better position to make your own informed moral decision whether a film is or is not fit for your family. I only wish I could afford to get these reports to you much sooner.

I wanted to give this film a final score of ZERO because of the sexual assaults on morality in it targeted at youth but I couldn't -- the CAP analysis model is insulated from my personal feelings and is driven entirely by God's Word. This fact is testimony to the utility of the CAP analysis model -- to reveal for you beforehand, objectively to His Word, the presence of immorality and the concentrations of immorality, numerically showing the position(s) of the concentration(s) relative to the six CAP investigation areas (W, I, S, D, O, M) shown by the CAP thermometers. No secular film review or critic service can do this for you. Even if they did, it would be by their own standards, not God's.

The film was atypically lite for PG-13 films in violence/crime (W), foul language and arrogance and hate (I), the use of God's name in vain and other unholy/evil matters (O), and there were no murders or suicides (M) in the entire 100 minutes. But there was enough negatively influential material found in both the Sexual Immorality (S) and Drugs/Alcohol (D) investigation areas to lose all of the 100 starting points in each, clearly making this film equivalent to R-rated films in both Sexual Immorality and Drugs/Alcohol. The atypically low amount of ignominy in the other four of the six CAP investigation areas is the only reason the final score was as relatively high as it was.

Mom/dad, clamp on to the fine detail the CAP analysis model brings you. Films which earn a score of 54 and below are equivalent to R-rated films in the comparative baseline database. While this film earned a final score of 57, it earned ZERO in Sexual Immorality and ZERO in Drugs/Alcohol. This is why we have told folks from the start to not rely on just the final score. Inspect the scoring in each of the investigation areas and inspect closely the listing in the Findings/Scoring section. (Yes, it is a list of findings since the items would not be there if they were not observed in the film.) Then make your decision whether an unseen film might be fit for your kids.

When you get a chance, click on the CAP thermometers for this or any other analysis to get a more complete understanding of the utility of the CAP analysis model than can possibly be presented in this Summary/Commentary section. And maybe visit CAP Methodology from our site map on our home page your next convenience. Folks who have done so come away with a deeper appreciation of just what this service can do for them.

Again, if you do not like to hear of sexually immoral deeds in and as entertainment leave this report now. But if your kids watch this film they will not only hear of them but will see them in large-than-life, 20 x 60 foot booming action.

This flick for your at-home teens is rated PG-13 for "sexual content, nudity and language." The MPAA got it right this time but more befitting an R-rated film. There certainly was a lot of "Sexual content." Specifically, intercourse. More than once. With and by more than one actor/actress pair. And "nudity?" There certainly was a lot of that, too. Kutcher and Peet are seen as described above fully disrobed from the rear and the side (him frontally), repeatedly, individually and in intimate face-to-face, squeezing full-body contact. Repeatedly. And for more than one second. Each. One scene of double nudity is even used as a display in a "art" exhibit and is thus seen again. Repeatedly.

Odd, too, that the MPAA [apparently] does not include the influence of the use OR abuse of alcoholic beverages in their rating criteria (if they have any). Booze seemed to be part of nearly every other situation. Drunkenness was part of the story as well. Repeatedly. [Eph. 5:18] One would think the MPAA would at least make note of such use/abuse in their ratings since the professionals have clearly identified a direct link between the influence of alcoholic beverages in and as entertainment with abuse of it by adolescents. A recent study has found an undeniable link between the presentation of alcoholic beverages and tobacco in and as entertainment and abuse of them by adolescents. And teaching/causing youth to abuse alcohol/tobacco by emboldening youth with them in and as entertainment invokes Luke 17:2.

Art? What is it that makes nudity "art?" Art is not sin but art becomes sin when art uses sin. God made the human body and thus it is indeed beautiful. But God speaks darkly and shamefully of the display of nudity more than 40 times in both the Old Testament and the New testament. making the display of nudity such as in and as entertainment sinful. No, a doctor seeing nudity in the performance of his job is not sinful. And no, it is not sinful to see nudity by chance, for example, on the streets. But it is sinful for us to seek it and take pleasure in it or to parade it as did Kutcher and Peet. Besides Peet and Kutcher were not married, either in the show or in real life. And even if they were married, even in real life, such a display in and as entertainment is wrongful, to be reserved for the married couple behind closed doors where it is part of the beauty of marriage.

Our kids can always use a little more desensitization regarding sexual purity and corrosion of natural inhibition, right? Teens really need to get a good idea of what mom and dad look like without any clothes, right? Gotta get with the times, right? From the backwards hat and bare midriff crowd I can hear it now. "I've seen nudity before!" Oh? As entertainment? Displayed for millions of viewers? For money? Full nudity? Both male and female? Together? In a full-body press? Repeatedly? Well, the first time of a sin does not excuse the second. Nor does the second excuse the third ... nor the thousandth. Nor does the thousandth excuse the first. Nor does "acting" excuse demonstrating sin. While it is a sin to take pleasure in such displays, it is also sinful for they who display it.

Oliver Martin (Ashton Kutcher) met Emily Friehl (Amanda Peet) as Emily fought with her now ex-boyfriend at an airport. After playing several turns of the eye-contact game in the boarding area then on the plane, Oliver went to the lavatory. Amanda soon followed and had sex with Oliver in the lavatory -- by her initiative, her aggression. That sets the stage for the entire show - a teeney bopper, MPAA-approved sex/skin flick for your barely pubescent kids who are least likely to be able to master the drives inflamed by such display. [1Ths. 4:3 - 7]

Did you ever wonder why so many of our young teens seem to have such worldly awareness of sexual sin and such contempt for sexual purity and natural inhibition? And did you ever wonder why so many of our teens think such is acceptable "real life?" Well, now you know. "I learned all about that stuff at school and the skating rink!" Well, from where do you think they who did the "teaching" got it?

I have no more to say about the plot or story. What would be the point? A pretty package does not excuse the content. No, we do not compensate scoring or anything else for the sake of context. Indeed, we ignore context. Context does not excuse sin. Please, read the text at the "BEFORE You Read On..." link above.

I dearly wish I could have afforded to get this to you sooner. Much of modern entertainment is playing with Fire and most of us don't realize it.


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  • Eph. 5:18 Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit. ["Wine" can be any intoxicating substance. Though it is not a sin to drink, it is a sin to get drunk OR to influence to get drunk or to drink in defiance.]
  • 1Ths. 4:3 - 7 It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his [or her] own body [which includes control of drives, touching, seeking, lusting (even after images), promiscuity, etc.] in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish [unforgiven] men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.

    ***Selected Scriptures of Armour against the influence of the entertainment industry***
  • Ps. 12:8 The wicked freely strut about [e.g., create progressively vile/offensive entertainment with impunity and no consequences to younger and younger audiences every year] when what is vile is honored among men [when enough people continue to defend it, embrace it, pay for it, enjoy it, want it, submit to it].
  • Col. 2:8 Beware lest any man [by his influence] spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.
  • 1 Cor. 15:33 Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.
  • Rom. 5:19 For as by one man's disobedience many were made sinners, so by the obedience of one shall many be made righteous.
  • Jude 1:4 For there are certain men* crept in unawares [secretly slipped in among you], who were before of old ordained to this condemnation [whose condemnation was written about long ago], ungodly men, turning the grace of our God into lasciviousness [a license for immorality], and denying the only Lord God, and our Lord Jesus Christ. [*men: anthropos {anth'-ro-pos}, generic, a human being, whether male or female]
  • Matt. 25:40 And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto [or for] one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto [or for] me.
  • Luke 17:2 It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones. ["Offend": skandalizo - to entice to sin; to cause a person to begin to distrust and desert one whom he ought to trust and obey; to cause to fall away. "Little ones": mikros - little;, small of age; younger which can include at-home teens].
  • Ps. 119:133 Order my steps in thy word: and let not any iniquity have dominion over me [let no sin rule over me].
  • John 14:15 If ye love me, keep my commandments.
  • 1 Thess. 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil. ["Evil" includes all things that are sinful.]


    As always, it is best to refer to the Findings/Scoring section -- the heart of the CAP analysis model -- for the most complete assessment possible of this movie.
    (The heart of the CAP Analysis Model)

    A Lot Like Love (2005) CAP Thermometers

    Wanton Violence/Crime (W)
  • reckless driving due to "broken heart"
  • policeman excusing public indecency

    Impudence/Hate (I)
  • six uses of the three/four letter word vocabulary
  • animated display of anger with physical aggression
  • lying to parents
  • additional lies
  • a man and a woman exiting a stall in a woman's restroom
  • love song speaking of suicide

    Sexual Immorality (S)
  • dressing to maximize the human form and/or skin exposure, repeatedly
  • inappropriate touch, repeatedly
  • inappropriate display of affection
  • sexual aggression, repeatedly, both genders
  • intercourse in an airplane lavatory (unseen)
  • intercourse innuendo, repeatedly
  • sexual innuendo, comments, remarks, talk, repeatedly
  • vulgar self-photographing
  • vulgar sex comment
  • sounds of intercourse
  • man and woman in bed nude after intercourse
  • cohabitation, repeatedly
  • ghosting of female anatomy through clothing, repeatedly
  • making out, repeatedly, once frenzied, ostensibly for sex
  • changing clothes in public
  • homosexual suggestion
  • full frontal male nudity, repeatedly, with only shadows hiding genitals
  • full rear male nudity, repeatedly
  • full rear female nudity, repeatedly
  • full side female nudity, repeatedly
  • full side male nudity, repeatedly
  • full side nudity of man and woman together in intimate full-body frontal contact, repeatedly
  • making out in car nude
  • intercourse in car (genitals unseen)
  • man and woman nude in car the morning after
  • male in underwear
  • female in blanket only
  • man and woman nude on bed

    Drugs/Alcohol (D):
  • smoking, repeatedly
  • booze, repeatedly
  • guzzling, repeatedly
  • bar, repeatedly
  • drinking, repeatedly
  • drunkenness, repeatedly

    Offense to God (O)
  • four use of God's name in vain without the four letter expletive
  • reference to zodiac as a measure of compatibility
  • New Year's Day revelry

    Murder/Suicide (M)
  • none noted

  • First Impressions and

    Christian Educators Association International



    There are some in the entertainment industry who maintain that 1) violent programming is harmless because no studies exist that prove a connection between violent entertainment and aggressive behavior in children, and 2) young people know that television, movies, and video games are simply fantasy. Unfortunately, they are wrong on both accounts." And "Viewing violence may lead to real life violence." I applaud these associations for fortifying 1 Cor. 15:33. Read the rest of the story. From our more than eight years of study, I contend that other aberrant behaviors, attitudes, and expressions can be inserted in place of "violence" in that statement. Our Director - Child Psychology Support, a licensed psychologist and certified school psychologist concurs. For example, "Viewing arrogance against fair authority may lead to your kids defying you in real life." Or "Viewing sex may lead to sex in real life." Likewise and especially with impudence, hate and foul language. I further contend that any positive behavior can be inserted in place of "violence" with the same chance or likelihood of being a behavior template for the observer; of being incorporated into the behavior mechanics and/or coping skills of the observer. In choosing your entertainment, please consider carefully the "rest of the story" and our findings.

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